As a Kids Hope USA mentor, you understand this fundamental truth: your student, like all human beings, wants to be known and valued. And that’s why mentoring is so powerful—it shows others that we value them by spending time with them. However, during this time of social distancing, you may have had to find different ways to connect with your Kids Hope USA student.  As founder of the caregiving ministry Wisdom of the Wounded, I see firsthand the power of reaching out to someone in need. Our team has gathered ideas to help you care for and encourage your student, whether virtually or from a safe social distance.

LAUGH:  Science tells us that laughing can enhance our physical, mental, and emotional health.  It can lighten a mood between you and your student. Send your student a joke or riddle in one of your notes as a pen pal. Or, if you meet online, you could open with a joke. This will give your student something to look for and anticipate.  Encourage him to start a joke collection on a computer or in a notebook.  Then when he talks with friends or family, he will have something to share and may discover how enjoyable it is to make others smile.  Online resources like, Third Grade Jokes, 277 Puns for Kids, and Riddles for Teens can get you started.

PLAY A GAME REMOTELY:  Are you still able to meet with your student virtually via webcam? Close the distance between you and your student by playing some fun games together online during your session.  This list of nine classic, free online games is sure to send you down memory lane—and help you create an enjoyable meeting with your student. Just be sure to read the website’s “fine print” to ensure you’re protecting your student’s privacy, as well as following all Kids Hope USA guidelines. If you’re mentoring as a pen pal this year, you could create some word scrambles or simple word or math puzzles for them to solve and send back to you.

SURPRISE YOUR STUDENT:  Most kids, whether older or younger, enjoy a nice surprise. It is fun. It makes both the giver and the receiver smile. So, plan a small surprise for your student. If you are meeting online, tap into your inner performer to sing a silly song, or narrate a poem using funny voices. Or incorporate a “guest visit” from your pet. If your program allows it, you could arrange to send a small gift. Some ideas could include: a bag filled with popcorn and fresh or dried fruit. Or perhaps the surprise bag is filled with a book of puzzles, or coloring pencils and coloring book. Many students enjoy Mad Libs, which can be found at dollar stores. There’s even an online Mad Lib app, if you can get approval for your student to use it.

JAZZ UP YOUR INTERACTIONS:  Just because you are meeting remotely, or temporarily confined to pen pal mentorship doesn’t mean your interactions need to be boring. Here are two ways to make your interactions memorable (and meaningful!)

• Do a “get-to-know you” activity. Maybe this time of social isolation is the right time to get to know each other better. So, make up a list of questions which you would like to know about your student.  (Your student could do the same and give you a list of questions she would like to know about you.) For ideas to get you started see: “Kids Get Acquainted Questionnaire” created by Wisdom of the Wounded.
• Make your written work shine. If you are corresponding primarily through writing, take a moment to ponder: how can I make this letter “pop”? You don’t need to be a talented artist to catch a child’s interest. Consider adding a silly drawing, joke, or stickers to your card. Stick figures are fine! For inspiration, here’s a tutorial on creating simple doodles.

We at Wisdom of the Wounded hope that the above ideas will help you support and connect with your student during these times of social distancing.  Also, these ideas may ignite your creativity as you discover and experiment with other ways of connecting.

Thank you for being a Kids Hope USA mentor. You are making a difference in a child’s life.

About the author: Karen Mulder is founder of Wisdom of the Wounded, a ministry that inspires and equips others to care for the suffering during life’s difficulties.

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As you prepare to launch into a new school year with a fair degree of uncertainty, I simply want to take a moment to encourage you. I understand that many of you are transitioning from in person relationships to ‘virtual’ platforms or ‘pen pal’ arrangements, and while this might be discouraging or intimidating, any type of connection or communication with your mentee offers a sound opportunity to sprinkle hope and spread compassion to students who are desperately searching for consistency and connection. With that in mind, I want to share four simple principles that will promote resiliency in your relationship with your student.

First, be Present. I have had the privilege of working in the counseling field for over twenty years, yet over the past six months, I have encountered students who are suffering from disconnection and isolation unlike anything I have previously witnessed. As weeks of lockdown orders lingered into months for students, friendships dwindled and loneliness became pervasive. As we enter this school year, students are starving for meaningful connections. Being available and present for a student throws a lifeline fostering human connection and relationship. When you write them a note, they realize that they matter. They are important. And someone else holds them in mind. Then, when you are able to connect in person and you can add the ingredients of active listening and empathy, students develop the strength to break the shackles of loneliness and embrace their identity as children of the King of Kings.

Second, be Positive. Wow, has our culture grown to inflate negativity! Spending a few moments reading the news or following social media reminds me how hostile, angry, and negative our mainstream culture has become. Students are drowning in this swell of chaos as well. Many are bombarded by criticism on Instagram posts or assaulted with put downs among ‘friends’ while they are gaming. Filling your words and relationship with positivity and kindness builds trust and heals wounds. Kind words create an alternative and corrective experience for kids. Their internal voice changes from ‘I’m worthless’ to ‘Maybe I matter?’ When you see things from a positive perspective, you invite your mentee to experience the world in that way as well. Help them look for the ‘good.’

Third, be Playful. There is nothing like a good laugh to lighten a mood. Stuart Brown, a national expert on the value of play quipped, “When enough people raise play to the status it deserves in our lives, we will find the world a better place.” And isn’t this true! Pause for a moment and consider how you feel when you take the time to play. Whether you are on the tennis court or playing a card game, the act of play triggers positive, happy feelings. I hear many of you wondering, how is it possible to do this when I am not even able to see my mentee in person? While that might be true, there are a multitude of ways to encourage play. If you are meeting them virtually, there are screen options that allow you to play games like Uno or crossword puzzles together. There is even a ‘whiteboard’ where you can play games like dot-to-dot or tic tac toe. If you are writing notes, perhaps you can encourage play through including a coloring page or sharing a pretend story. Encouraging kids to create space for play will indeed make the world a better place.

Finally, be in Prayer. Having less face-to-face time with your student is challenging. They are probably facing obstacles of which you are not even aware. Even so, keep praying for them. Just this morning, I had a conversation with a mom who shared that she had been wrestling with how to create restrictions around her son’s screen time since he had been spending inordinate amounts of time on his Xbox. She committed to praying for him for a week to see if Jesus would provide her direction. Wouldn’t you know, her son approached her a week later and said he was “kind of sick of his video games.” He had decided to try some other activities with friends. What a testimony to answered prayer! Not all changes occur radically like this one, but we can trust that our God is at work and He is making a way. We simply need to ask.

Friends, you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers as you build relationships with students this year. In some ways, you may feel challenged more than ever. Even so, I am confident of this. You will continue to pour hope into places of hopelessness and spread light in places of darkness. “And let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful” (Hebrews 10:23). And may you be richly blessed as you press on.

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